Capsule #6: You Are One Conversation Away From Changing Your Love Life

Speaker 1: 0:00

Are you hoping she comes up to you or are you a hustler? Are you going to go up to her? You know, Recently I had a friend who visited me in Poland, and I'll tell you an interesting story about that in terms of love and relationships.

Speaker 1: 0:17

I had a friend who has been living in New York for the last 10 years. He's made a lot of. He's made, you know, huge progress. He's making a lot of money. But he know huge progress. He's making a lot of money but he's had the typical, you know, new york lifestyle. So he's had a lot of different relationships, nothing really meaningful, and he never had a girl that he was ready to introduce his parents to. Ah, we went to one of the clubs in warsaw, celavi, who I am pretty sure you are familiar with.

Speaker 1: 0:42

I never heard of it, so it's a way it's an august summer night, it's one, it's one night before my 40th birthday. And we're sitting. We're sitting at a table, we're drinking vodka, they're having a great time. I mean these, these aussies, they're looking around, they're they're loving, their necks are hurting from, from looking around. And I remember these two girls were standing next to us and I've often been the one that will start a conversation I'm a good wingman and I ended up inviting them to our table, introducing them to our friends. Believe it or not, they are a couple now. They, wow, they ended up hooking up on that night.

Speaker 1: 1:26

One month later, nick, my friend from new york, invited uh, the girl he met to iceland. Then they went to the bahamas and then, four months later, she came to sydney to visit to, to meet his family, and they are fully in love. And I said look how life can change. It's that. It's one conversation. You are one conversation away from finding the love of your life. You know that there are places in Warsaw that can change your, can change your world. And and these two people from two different worlds because this girl is from Ukraine, I think she she has, she has a good job in Warsaw, but her life's totally changed and it's a beautiful love story of how quickly you know your life can change I love that when you said your life is one conversation away to be completely changed.

Speaker 2: 2:13

Yeah, and because I think you know me a little bit, so throughout my career and I was helping you know the guys to meet- Throughout your career you've had a lot of conversations.

Speaker 2: 2:27

True, and I think that's the idea that I have always tried to teach or communicate. I was like man just imagine it's one conversation but what was making me sad was what actually pushed me to do to pursue this career, if you may. Yeah, because I know a lot of guys and they're like they have these incredible personalities and they're like smart and the whole package, but they cannot. You could tell the guy cut your hair. He would rather cut his hand than you know. Go Like confident, yeah, he would rather cut his hand than you know. Go like confident, yeah, and and it's, it's very I love this story of this, like you, just introduce this, your friend, to this woman and then they are like in relationship.

Speaker 2: 3:13

It's so beautiful, I'll tell you.

Speaker 1: 3:14

I'll tell you why I feel I've always been somewhat of an initiator, or or I've always helped people get to know each other. I've always been, I've always been introducing people to each other. I thought about why this is, and one of the reasons is I went to many schools in my life. I changed countries a lot and I was the new guy in many situations. I was new in school and I knew how difficult it was for me to get to know everyone and I knew how uncomfortable I felt in the beginning and I also experienced, you know, people who would help me meet other people and I became that person who I needed in those different situations. So I know how helpful it is when somebody you know puts their hand around you hey, bro, what's your name? Where you from bro, meet. This is, this is Michael, this is, you know, chris, and and I know how that that helps people feel so much better. And and I've become that person. I, when I was in, when I was living in Australia, I was throwing one of the ways.

Speaker 1: 4:19

I remember my first two years in Australia. I was still, you know, quite a tense teenager who you know I felt like. You know, I didn't necessarily want to be in Australia. I wanted to be in Poland. The first two years I remember in high school I wasn't one of the popular kids. I probably wanted to be in the popular Australia. In general, the high school world was like the films in the american team films, very similar. So you have the cool kids, you have the cool girls, you have the sports jocks, you have the geeks. I was in for the first two years. I was in the, the soccer boys. So we my way of connecting with people, because obviously you can go to school, but what are you doing in lunch break and who are you hanging around with that? That that's a part of who you are. That's, that's your identity. So I automatically connected with the people who played football. It was football for me, it was soccer in australian and I I, I'm a big football fan. So that was my way of connecting with people.

Speaker 1: 5:11

But I but I wasn't in the popular group and after two years I started doing something that did make me become very popular. I started organizing house parties. Bro, the moment you have a house party, everyone wants to be there, everyone wants to know you, and I realized that was something that you know. I was good at connecting people. I had a nice house where my parents, you know, would leave to another part in Australia. I had a free house so I was ready to risk and invite people. I had 17 people stay over at my house one time.

Speaker 1: 5:44

So I became famous because of those parties and that really put my status up in high school at the time and later on, when I was in England during my 20s, I was also organizing football games between. I was working in a restaurant in like a spa it's a beautiful spa outside of London and there there were people from czech republic, slovakia, england. There were polish guys and I remember organizing football games between england versus the rest of the world or poland versus the rest of the world and I was always good at just getting people together and sport was very often one of the ways. Sport or partying was one of the ways people connected and I felt really good at that and that was part of who I, who I was, especially because I was bilingual. But by by my 20s I became bilingual, so my English was just as good as my Polish and I was I would. I felt at home with the English, I felt at home with the Polish and I connected the two interesting.

Speaker 2: 6:33

so I'm just wanna you know touch, because you said you wanted to be in Poland and not in Australia or England. And one of the experiences I had when I came to Poland is maybe I was, I don't know, hanging out with the wrong people, but I couldn't help but notice a lot of people saying, you know, there's nothing to do in Poland. I don't like this country, but Polish people are international people.

Speaker 1: 7:01

No, no polish people. Polish people complaining the general.

Speaker 2: 7:03

The general, yeah, I mean because I was like fresh to this country and I was ready, you know, to start my entrepreneurial journey and everything. And I feel like, oh, are you here, what are you doing here?

Speaker 1: 7:15

and why would you come here exactly? Why are you coming here?

Speaker 2: 7:18

I'm like man, let me breathe, let me settle down. So I want to what? Because?

Speaker 1: 7:25

it's like what made you miss poland. Yeah, exactly, I have to add something. I had to add something when I before. So I lived in, so I was born in france. I lived in poland for the first six years of my life. I lived a year in france and then I was five or six years in poland. Then we moved to london for four years, then I went a year in France and then I was five or six years in Poland. Then we moved to London for four years, then I went back to Poland and then we moved to Australia. So my dad was a diplomat, so we moved around a lot.

Speaker 1: 7:51

But I remember not wanting to go to London as a child and then the first two years were tough. The second two years were great. I didn't want to go back to Poland. I wanted to stay in England. When we went to Poland, it took me you go back to Poland. I wanted to stay in England. When we went to Poland.

Speaker 1: 8:02

It took me some time to like Poland. I didn't want to leave Australia. Then, when I was in Australia, I didn't want to leave Australia. Every time I was in a place I didn't necessarily want to change. It's not just Poland that I missed. I missed Australia a lot. I missed England a lot.

Speaker 1: 8:18

It took me some time to like a place and then when, when I was familiar with it, when I enjoyed it, I had to leave and that built the person that I am probably today. That all those changes. I'm really grateful for them. I got to meet a lot of people and I'm probably a more advanced kind of network. I'm better in social situations because of all the people I've met. I've probably I think that your level of empathy grows and that confidence to meet other people grows as well the fact that I'll very often be that person to say hey, where are you from, I'll be the first one to extend their hand out, and that's a part of the hustling that's needed, not just in building relationships, but in entrepreneurial situations. You know what I mean. I'm not waiting for somebody to come to me, I'm coming to them, and that works with girls, business life in general. Are you a hoper? Are you hoping she comes up to you, or are you a hustler? Are you gonna or?

Speaker 2: 9:13

are you gonna go?

Speaker 1: 9:13

up to her, you know.